There are several important questions to consider in your lifetime.

Coaching brings out all of those questions and encourages you to think about your life in relation to the question of “Who am I becoming?”

What is your “why”? 

Who are you?

What are your roles in life? 

What is your most significant objective? 

All these questions are helping you achieve the next step in your life. Having a clear overview of your answers to important questions like these will help you create a path so you can guide yourself toward your end goals. 

In this article, we talk about a question that can be of great significance for you – a dynamic question that will have an evolving answer depending on your mood, your surroundings, your experiences, your shifts and decisions… and that question is “Who are you becoming?”

But why is your answer always changing? Well, it’s simply because we, as humans, are in constant change ourselves.

You are improving yourself constantly, learning, growing, and experiencing new things that can change your perspective – you are always on the verge of discovering something new about yourself. And that is a beautiful thing!

As such, this is one of the reasons why asking yourself this question is crucial to evolve as a person. 

Let’s take a further look at this open-ended question “Why am I becoming?” by first answering some easier questions.

Are you who you want to be?

Leaning into the importance of the ”Who are you becoming?” question, we first have to ask ourselves: ”Am I who I want to be?”.

This question is a lot easier for most people to answer. But why is that so?

It’s because the question “Am I who I want to be?” is closed-ended. You only have to answer with a “yes” or a “no”.

But the chances of that happening are small. Most of you reading this article will probably answer with ”no”. And that’s fine.

Even if you may not be exactly who you want to be right now, that doesn’t mean it’s not possible to become who you want to become. Remember, if you have answered “no” to the question “Am I who I want to be?” this simply means that you might not be who you want to be right now… that is – at this moment. And time can change everything!

Think about the confluence of events leading to your birth

To reach that answer, you have to contemplate something. Have you ever thought about the events leading to your birth?

Take a second and think about that.

The odds of you being born are one in four hundred trillion. Can you even visualize such a number?

All your ancestors’ small decisions lead to your existence. Imagine how significant that is.

Once you have a perspective about your birth, continue reading.

Think about your final moments in life

Although modern medicine has improved life expectancy drastically over the last century, we still aren’t going to live forever.

When thinking about answering the question “Who am I becoming?”, imagine how you would think of yourself in your final moments.

Would you be proud of the way you have spent your life?

Were you able to seek learning opportunities in every experience and lesson you encountered throughout your life?

The reality is, that things can change in an instant. So rather than waiting for your actual “final moments” to reflect on your life, why not reflect on your life up until now? And continue to do so regularly.

You can look at “final moments” less from the biological life expectancy perspective, and more from a pivot or a change in your life. For example, a loss of a job can represent “final moments”. The ending of a relationship is a big ending. Major events in your life – both positive and negative – can be wonderful opportunities for you to reflect on those “final moments” leading up to the event.

But…what comes after these final moments?

After dying, comes resurrection

Dying, as a figure of speech, is a big part of our evolution. When you ask yourself: “Who am I becoming?”, think about your most dire moments. When did you encounter the hardest moments of your life?

Those are your dying moments. Now, what’s next?

Resurrection, or rebuild. That is, putting your powerful skills to work in order to overcome those final moments.

To achieve this, you will have to do some deeper introspection, asking yourself self-reflective questions like:

Who am I?

What are my greatest achievements?

How can I reach my goals?

These questions, along with the powerful one we’re focusing on in this article, will help you resurrect any part of your current life.

The resurrection that we are talking about can have different forms, especially when it comes to life coaching:

You can see yourself speaking in front of a crowd

You find the courage to become a life coach

Having your first coaching client

Discovering a new niche in which you can coach

Developing a deep connection with a new coaching client

All of these are forms of resurrection that you can use to answer “Who am I becoming?”

After envisioning yourself like that, there is only one more step:

Reach your vision!

Don’t just dream about it – think about what the next steps are so you can reach your vision. Unicorns are not real, but dreams are! Don’t let the mirage of a unicorn stand between you and your vision!

Now, overcome obstacles!

How can you reach your vision?

Well, the path toward reaching your vision surely has obstacles along the way. To achieve your final vision, you’ll have to overcome the obstacles in your path. 

Everyone encounters obstacles. But what do great coaches do? Do they cower in front of the obstacle?

Do they stop trying because the wall is too high?

Do they wait for a unicorn to carry them along the path?

No.

Coaches will get up every time, after each failure, and try again. 

The key to that is realizing that all your obstacles are, actually, in your own mind. Working on your belief system is crucial if you want to accomplish your end vision. 

Identifying your limiting beliefs is crucial if you want to discover which obstacles are real and which are ‘fake’.

When you think about your path, where is your focus?

On the Path

On the Obstacles

Which answer seems like the better one to focus on?

Focusing on your path instead of the obstacle will help you achieve freedom, and by achieving the freedom you can harness the energy required to put in the work.

Regularly and purposefully ask yourself “Who am I becoming?”.

Time and time again, by dedication and asking yourself the right questions, you’ll be amazed by how far you can go.

Amaze yourself!